The newly integrated Ali Shanti confirms & confirms & confirms what we’ve all known, and yes, Ali, the whole world was watching!
Relationships in the day and age of Facebook are so, well, interesting. A year ago, you all watched as Michael Jacobs and I discovered our love for each other. Everywhere we went, people would come up to him and say “I know you from Facebook!” I realized how many more people read what I write than I thought.
And now as Michael and I transition our relationship into new form, I feel compelled to write something, but I’m honestly not sure what to say, yet.
Let’s see what comes …
This “break-up” (I don’t really see it that way) has been one of the easiest relationship transitions I’ve experienced. It’s what is right for both of us and I feel infinite gratitude for the time we had together.
Michael supported me through a year of learning to be with my daughter in a new way, as she steps into womanhood. A time of discovering permaculture and deepening into my work. He supported me through some painful transitions in my companies and to step into a new level of personal leadership. And, listening to his music, as he created his album, significantly upgraded my consciousness. I hope you listen, if you have not yet.
Through our time together, I have integrated my Ali and Alexis parts in a way that feels great to me and I feel able to be myself and with myself in a way I didn’t before.
In reality, I could have stayed in this relationship for a long time because it felt so good and comfortable to be with Michael. But, the context of our relationship wasn’t good and comfortable, it was evolution and growth. (Thanks to Jennifer Russell and Bryan Franklin for the workshop at Burning Man where we got to discover this together.)
Fortunately, we have such good friends who could see that our staying together was not serving either of us in the highest way possible and who supported us to transition gracefully. We went to Valley View Hot Springs with Paul Cooper Diana Fleischmann Nanci Tarutz Alpert and Keith Alpertfor my birthday and, it turns out, to be gently guided to see the truth of what would serve most.
I felt embarrassed that we needed that kind of support to end our relationship and then realized it wasn’t embarrassment, it was resistance to intimacy. I felt awkward that we were taking our friends time to support us in this way until I let myself accept that friendship goes there. True friends want to be there in the challenging times too.
And, it’s always helpful when your friends are amazing healers and guides who can help you see what you cannot always see on your own.
Several few years ago, when I broke up with a partner I had been with for a few years, one of our “friends” approached him afterwards to ask him if he wanted her to smear my name. (He didn’t.) I am so glad to see how far I’ve come in the friend department.
And thanks to you who are reading this for the support and kindness for both me and Michael. While I think we are both doing well, extra love during a time of transition is welcome.
Yo, Skankatron, there’s still time to thank The Academy while you’re transitioning. Think she at all regrets that umpteenth Burning Man orgy? Naw, Ali comes & comes & comes first.
Bottom Picture!: Hold the pickles, hold the lettuce, special orders don’t upset us!