MTV Superstar Baya Voce, Donk’s partner-in-presentation-slime at Camp Septic, is banging Tim Ferrit. Wonder if he makes her walk 30 paces behind him when they check into a hotel.
Dmitriy Kozlov, Chief Expression Officer at Influex and the filling in the above Baya/Tim sandwich, weighs in on the messiah:
Ten years ago, this man’s writing was the greatest catalyst for my FREEDOM.
It was the one book that was on my nightstand for over a year. I read it cover to cover + audio probably 10 – 15 times. I studied the principles and applied what I could even when I was completely broke.
I was committed to graduating college without having to go “get a job” – and thanks to this book, my dreams came true, as I started my first real, profitable company Purpose Inspired Marketing in my senior year, and graduated college supporting myself financially through my profits.
I even had on my ultimate life list to “have a glass of wine with the author” and thank him for the impact he’s had in my life.
A year after graduation, I got to cross that off the list, as I met him at a meetup upstairs in a Cambridge Restaurant (thanks Jason McGarva and Yanik Silver for helping to make that happen).
The book was 4 Hour Work Week, by Tim Ferriss (thanks Bobby Morse and Gregory Goodman for introducing me to his work).
When I saw Tim in Camp Mystic at Burning Man, I was quite nervous to approach him and invite him to my wedding. It was the first time in awhile that I’d felt such insecurity approaching a long-time hero.
In true playa magic, he and his partner Baya not only attended our wedding, but were in our wedding party! After I MC’d a panel on relationships that Baya was in along with my friends Jennifer Russell and Julia Allison (which was amazing, I hope the recording is out soon to share), Mariana asked Baya about the “Third Pole” (primary purpose) in their relationship, which turned out to be Exploration and Adventure.
Exploration and Adventure is a core value that Mariana has been calling into our marriage, and she invited them to stand as pillars for that value in our union (we had several epic couples as our “groomsmen and bridesmaids” holding up core values for our marriage).
And who better to embody it than Tim and Baya?
They said yes!
Even before our ceremony, their YES inspired a new vow for us, Mariana’s words: “I vow to hold the pillar of play, adventure & exploration, such that our lives are rich with experience and adventure.”
In their words of wisdom for us at our ceremony, I remember Tim sharing the unique perspective with us about exploration and adventure in our love…
To paraphrase, he shared: Find adventure in the ‘mundane’ … in creating our lives, our rituals, our daily co-creation together. Feel the depth of exploration in going through the challenging times together, in the evolution and growth of our darkest moments together. This perspective will be the glue for the ever-evolving rollercoaster of our love.
(I’ll share the full wedding video soon with their advice for us along with the other couples).
Later that evening, Tim and Baya sat with us sharing more guidance for our growth journey together.
My present self was learning so much, and my younger, boy-ish self was internally marveling at the experience of one of my biggest “out of reach” heroes sitting intimately with us sharing wisdom from his heart and mind, as a friend on the journey of love.
I got to FULLY thank Tim later for all the impact he’s had in my life through his writing, and now through his presence, and we shared several meaningful hugs.
This was just one magical moment of our Burning Man Wedding.
Goodness, Dima sounds more taken with Tim’s pillar than he does with Mariana, “Conscious Living Executive Coach,” AKA Grifter, but whatever.
There’s nothing more magical than a Burning Man wedding, eh, Donkey? Looking forward to hearing of the intellectual acumen you’ve collected after years of getting dumped again and again. Is your recording coming out on St. Martin’s Audiobooks?
Bottom Picture: Once more, with feeling. September 16, 2018. Our burro had just gotten out of the opera, Pagliacci, where she presumably sang the lead.