Reimagine: Dating [Vulnerable Share]
I began seeing someone in late March – the first person I dated since Rain & I broke up, and the first after my 8 months of Bali celibacy (Balibacy?? Lol). We weren’t exclusive (my choice, I didn’t want to get “too serious” too fast) – but despite those efforts, it really wasn’t casual. At all.
As I should have anticipated (because I’m in my thirties and I’ve gone through approximately 568 breakups) … the new relationship was rife with explosions of pain from wounds I THOUGHT I had healed during my time in Bali, but which had instead merely burrowed deeper (oops!), waiting for the next unsuspecting fellow to begin falling in love with me and say something stupid like, “I love you! You’re the One!” only for me to FREAK THE F OUT and screech, “Oh, YOU LOVE me, do you? You want to marry me?! THE LAST 8 GUYS SAID THAT TOO AND WE BROKE UP!!! I DON’T BELIEVE YOU!!!! AHHHH!!!”
To which this poor human just stood there like, “I genuinely do not have a clear sense of what to say or do in this moment so I am going to slowly back away and try not to make any sudden movements because it’s possible you may bite my D. And not in the sexy way.”
And thus I decided that I’m actually not ready – in this moment – for a new relationship, unless it’s with a therapist.
But that doesn’t mean I can’t step up and make some commitments. Here’s to reimagining everything! In this case, segueing out of dating into friendship.
The pain from burrowing wounds? Oh, the humanity! What would Julia Allison do if she ever had a real problem?
I’m still reeling over the eight fools who allegedly asked for a lazy burro’s hand in marriage. Pancakes McCain begged Donkey for a lifetime commitment?! Chad “Ho Dog” McNally couldn’t wait to sign on the dotted line? Oh Judy, please.
More on Reasonable Man soon!
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Thanks for the get well cards. I drove for the first time in 10 days, so your prayers to Goddess and Maria Teresa Chavez must be working!
Bottom Picture! Mary & Meghan together again, July 2018: