From her comments:
Commenter: Julia, while I agree that there are people who have gone too far with this, how can you have the nerve to say someone who emails a boyfriend has psychological problems when you, yourself, emailed the fiancee of your ex detailing how his dating of her overlapped with you having sex with him. You admitted you did it. So tell us all, WHO DOES THAT?
Julia’s Response: You’re right, I did do that. He dated me – and her – simultaneously for over six months (after he and I had been together for some time). And he wasn’t just sleeping with me. He was telling me he loved me, that he wanted to marry me. I thought she had the right to know who she was marrying. I don’t regret that in the least. Perhaps I should, but wouldn’t you want to know you were marrying a cheater? I sure as hell would.
That said, whether or not you disagree with me, that conversation – which I stand by – was between me, her, him and no one else. The fact that she wanted it broadcast that her future husband cheated on her is strange to me, but I can’t pretend to understand what goes on in the mind of others.
So let me get this straight. It’s “cheating” if it’s [Redacted#1], but it’s NOT “cheating” if it’s a crazy, marriage-hungry, puffy-faced loon with a side of Greasy Pancakes.
OK, then. I’m glad we cleared that up.