Subtitled: “In Defense of Julia Allison”
Jesus, fuck! What a clusterfuck of a week. Julia Allison’s “absence” from the internet has garnered the most number of pageviews this site has ever gotten, and it has culminated in a shitshow of a live chat with The Donkey herself.
I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while, but with people coming into the comments saying that we wish Julia were dead, and that we’re horrible, horrible people filled with hate for some poor, innocent person, I am more compelled to clear the air for a moment.
I don’t hate Julia.
That is the truth. I hate some of the things she gets away with. I hate what she seems to represent regarding an instant gratification culture that seems to skip over that whole work ethic thing as they race frenetically toward some undefinable goal. The truth is I’m fascinated by Julia Allison. There is someone like her who actually exists and who seems to, at least publically, get away with the famewhoring antics that she has pulled for years. Her desire was fame, which, no matter what she says, is an unrefutable truth based on the years of begging for Gawker coverage, seeking reality show after reality show, sending out press releases and starting a “business” whose model was only to show off the lives of three spoiled women.
The fact that she’s gotten away with it for so long is mesmerizing to me, but it seems like she is not getting away with it any more, at least not as much as she used to.
I contribute to this site to call her out on her shit. Is that my responsibility as some random person? No. Did I inexplicably pick up an unwarped mirror to show Julia her unmanipulated reflection? Yes. But as I’ve continued to write here, the point of this blog really has nothing to do with Our Lady of Introspection. The commenters are hilarious and great, for one, and a community has been indeed built, but I think Julia represents something that many of us find revolting about our culture, and for many readers here, it is not her, it is the idea of her. At least it is for me. Because of that, it is hard sometimes to remember that there is a human being with feelings behind the spectacle. And yes, I am sometimes really, really mean. Let’s face it, those Photoshop contests are just cruel. But I don’t hate her, nor do I wish her any harm or ill will.
Anyway, Julia did indeed storm the castle out of frustration that she is feeling in her life, which really has fallen apart, if I must say, with businesses, relationship and friendships crumbling around her. It’s her fault mostly, but it’s not like she doesn’t have a right to feel sad about it. So she has every right to come into the clubhouse and scream and stomp her foot, although it is really ill-advised.
I personally would not have opened the lines of communication and have her answer questions in the chatroom. It was already happening when I sat down at my computer to do some work and clicked over to this site. But it happened, and now it’s over.
So what did we learn?
- She really doesn’t like being called “donkey.” I think it’s funny. Donkey.
- The Jordan catastrophe was just as bad as has been inferred. They no longer speak.
- Julia and Mary are no longer friends, but they are cordial, which I think was obvious.
- PK did indeed dump her, but he left a possibility for reconciliation. But, seriously, honey, consider that door closed shut, for your own sake.
- NonSociety is officially a non-business. It is just used as a platform for them to pursue their own projects.
- NonSociety was originally funded by an “angel” investor. Some sources say that investor was Dark Lord Denton himself.
- She used Adderall, yes, years ago, and has used Xanax four times in the last year.
- She is currently looking for a therapist.
- She has to start blogging on Monday because of contractual obligations.
There is so much more, but, honestly I was only half-paying attention, and the whole thing got a little out of control toward the end. Apparently, a full transcript is here.
Did Julia tell the absolute truth? Of course not, and I don’t know why anyone expected her to, since that has never been her modus operandi. For one, I still do not believe her computer was “hacked” to release Prom King’s name and to make those vimeo videos of her date public, but anyone who expected her to be completely and totally honest is fooling themselves. Did she evade some pointed questions? Of course. Did she give some patented Julia Allison spin on some of her answers? Definitely. But there glimmers of previously undisplayed honesty in a few of her answers that should be commended. Why? Because it is a step in the right direction.
The takeaway for Julia from this chat should be that she needs to start blogging with unfettered honesty, and if she doesn’t want to face scrutiny about certain aspects of her life, she shouldn’t offer her reader’s glimpses into things that she doesn’t want to fully talk about. And I for one am glad that she is seeking therapy, if that is the truth, because homegirl needs it badly.
Did she convince some people to like her? Who knows? Were some people unwavering for their distaste for donkey? It appears so. The fact of the matter is that everyone has a right to their own opinion, and Julia Allison needs to accept that there will be negative opinions of her so long as she exists in a public space such as the internet. People are allowed to change their opinions about Julia Allison, and people are allowed to hate her immensely, as some commenters seem to do. Although, I will say that I don’t think many opinions have been changed today, and anyone who says so is kidding themselves.
There were no winners or losers here today, and I don’t understand why this whole situation needs to be defined in those terms. I don’t think any of the mods here are out to destroy the donkey. I, for one, have said time and time again that I hope she gets the help she needs.
Will I contribute to parse the material given? Yes. Were we pawned as some have suggested? No. That is a ridiculous assumption, I’m sorry, but it is.
Take what you will with what happened today. But I don’t think anything changed. I am hopeful though that Julia may have seen that we aren’t all rabid, vitriolic cat ladies and saw some reason behind all the madness.
But probably not. This is Julia Allison after all.