Say goodbye to awkward male-female sexual encounters! The Greasy Gargoyle has the solution:
In the wake of the Aziz Ansari allegations, I’ve created this “Consent Pledge” (for men who have sex with women)– a publicly-made commitment going forward, signed online:
“I commit to making sure all my sexual encounters are fully consensual. I commit to getting a crystal-clear, unambiguous verbal or non-verbal ‘yes’ from my sexual partner(s) before and during sex. I commit to not pressuring her to say ‘yes,’ to stop if she says ‘no,’ and to ask if I’m unsure or if she gives ‘mixed signals.’ I commit to stopping if–in my most honest assessment–I don’t believe that she is sober enough to give full consent.”
Guys–in the wake of #MeToo, please join me in publicly committing to full, unambiguous consent in our own lives going forward, at:
The Consent Pledge is a publicly-made commitment going forward. Signing it does not mean one has or hasn’t followed it in the past.
The pledge is not a “consent form,” which needs to be shown to individual partners. It’s a public commitment, not a legal contract. It needs to be put into practice with partners, but not signed with them.
(There’s a long explanatory FAQ via the link above if you have more questions, with guidelines for how to put the behavior described in the pledge into practice in the real world. I’m happy to answer more questions, but please read the FAQ before posting questions here.)
I’m aiming to get 10,000 men to sign this Consent Pledge by June 1st, 2018–and onwards from there!
(And whether you sign the pledge publicly or not, please follow the behavior described in the pledge anyways!)
Men–in #MeToo, women have been telling us, loudly and courageously, how they want us men to change collectively. The ball is in our court now. Let’s work together and make the world safer sexually for women.
And for everyone: if you think more men need to hear about this, please spread the word and share.
Hopefully, male RBDers will enthusiastically sign Smellsberg’s latest plea for media attention. Has anyone told Laura Kipnis?
In other news, Wild Weasels is holding another “sensuous not sexual” woo shitshow this month. Their commercial for this indoor dirtfest is unintentionally hilarious, playing like an SNL parody. Look for Donkey besties Jess Johnson, Ariel “Dead Russian Hooker #2” White, non-lesbian lover Myka McLaughlin, and Palomi Sheth:
Someone needs to tell WW founders Elana Meta Jaroff and Chelsea Rae that Oprah will not take kindly to two clowns appropriating her image to sell their hippie snake oil. Hope these goddesses are prepared to receive a draconian cease-and-desist order.
Bottom Video! The cacophonous sounds of The Caterwauler, AKA Black Eyed Peabrain, take us out: