TRUE LOVE FOREVER! Annoying, silly Rainbow Michael Haynes posted a video of himself canoodling with the old raunch:
Ali followed this up with a post about “divorcing in a new way.” Like Jess Johnson, she is changing the world!
Traditional divorce is archaic in so many ways. So unnecessarily violent, even in the best of circumstances. And often when it’s not what’s truly desired by the parties.
But it’s so hard to find lawyers who understand and can support a non-violent divorce.
I’m working with a few families who are choosing a different way and it’s both extremely rewarding and surprisingly challenging because the traditional path is so deeply a part of our culture.
But so worth it.
Divorcing in a new way is a critical part of recreating the culture we live in.
We live longer than ever before, and our relationships need to be able to evolve with true love and care for one another.
If you had (or witnessed) a truly non-violent, and even deeply loving, divorce, I would love to hear about it.
Can you imagine SK3B in family court? That baby girl voice? ::shudder::
Also, Amber Rae, near roomie of Julia and Devin, just signed with “a top literary agent” for a new book. Ms. Bray thanked Ali, Kc Baker, the Academy (#oscarsowoo) and other folks, but no Donkey:
I just signed with my top choice literary agent for the #WonderOverWorry book (eeeee!!!!), and here’s how it went down:
On November 5, when I turned 31, I awoke with a faint sadness in my heart. Feeling a bit “off,” I turned to my journal to dive deeper, and began reflecting on my last decade of life. Through this, I realized two things:
1 – While I had done A LOT in 10 years, I hadn’t fully committed to the one thing I longed for most: writing a book.
2 – I have a tendency to hide behind new ideas and projects as a way to distract myself from what’s most important in my heart because of a story that I’m not worthy or good enough.
In recognizing this, I reached out to my dearest Andrew Horn for a heart chat over tea. When we got together, he immediately intuited what was going on, and asked, “What would really going for it look like for you?”
Without hesitation, I answered: “I would write the book.”
He then said, “Okay. So imagine it’s January 2017, and you’ve finished your proposal, and you’re talking with agents. How will you feel?” My whole body expanded open and forward, and I enthusiastically replied, “I would feel fucking fantastic.”
“Great,” he said. “Now go write your book proposal and do nothing else.”
I smiled at the simplicity of my next step. But still, when I left our time together, I noticed myself still worrying about how I’d find the time to fully focus on the book with everything else on my plate.
Enter: a workshop with Elizabeth Gilbert.
As if divinely timed, a few days later, I found myself front and center with Liz. (Thanks Farhad for the birthday present!) When asked about what to do when “you don’t have enough time,” she shared her own journey of having to give up what she did want for what she wanted even more.
This inspired me to make two lists:
I want this…
I want this even more…
There were so many things that I did want to create and do, but the one thing that I wanted most was very clear. So, I said “No” to a few projects, canceled a trip to Bali, and said a full “YES” to the book. I took three weeks to write the proposal, and then began sharing it with agents.
And now, as of yesterday, I’m signed with my top pick literary agency. (!!!) I’m smiling in amazement at how fast life can move when we fully commit, remove distractions, and focus on what matters most.
Thank you to everyone who has been a support in the journey and process. I’m looking at you Farhad, Beverly, Andrew, Adam, Laura, Tobias, Mailande, Dhru, Radha, Bryony, Kc, Ali, Liz, Shiva, Valerie, Yasmin, Rachel – to name a few. I’m deeply grateful and more ready than ever to write this book.
And, for you, I’m curious: what is it that you long for *most* in 2017? I’m rooting for you.
And Julia is rooting for you, Amber! Parse away, kittens!
Bottom Picture: Donkey and Meaghan & Mary 6.0
Update: Jena la Flamme and DJ Deadbeat Dad are tying the knot in four days. Guess his hungry kids won’t be attending the nuptials. Another one beat you down the aisle, Donkey!
Dare you surrender to Sacha’s bush?
The beloveds wowed San Francisco with their edgy stage show!