How dare we judge her on the apparently incomplete, misleading and me-me-me-me-me spewings about her family’s most intimate moments that she relentlessly broadcasts to her thousands of Twitter followers and dozen or so blog readers?
Who do her followers think they are? They should be ashamed of themselves! There oughta be a law!!!
I just got a blog comment that I will reprint here, because I found it so f—ked up: “Your grandfather is dying in the hospital. I’m glad to see you’re over it. Also, how kind of you to stay and support your mother, you truly proved yourself to be a great support.”
Here is what I said in response:
Actually, my grandfather is in hospice at home now, and my mom just flew into LA late Tuesday night (she booked a flight that day). I didn’t even know she would be flying out until Tues afternoon.
She is not alone. She has his longtime caretaker, Linda, and her brothers and sister, who all live in LA and are there. My father is back in Wilmette, and she didn’t need me to stay – we don’t know when he will die, it could be a few days or a few weeks.
I can’t stay in the house, as there is no room with the family there. Although I saw him and kissed him on the forehead, my grandfather is not really cognizant of who is there and who isn’t. My mom was really happy I was there today, but she wanted me to keep my plans as scheduled (I moved my flight back anyway). This death is not sudden. He has been going downhill for a while. While I found it really sad to say goodbye – and frankly, somewhat shocking (he was really, really different than when I had talked with him just a month ago), my mom says this is part of life. I don’t know how I feel. I’m processing it.
That said, why would you assume you know anything about what is going on inside my head – or with my family?? I think it’s really insensitive go around yelling at people you don’t know – when you’re not there – that they should be doing things differently. If my mom felt I wasn’t supportive – she would tell me. But she just texted me that she really appreciated both my visit – and my little brother’s phone call.
Perhaps instead of telling other people how to live correctly (from what information? a tweet??), we should all focus doing the best we can with our own families.